When people say ” The cheapest item after pure
water is sex ” I don’t really dispute this because sex is
everywhere now But men who run after ladies of low
virtue need to realise that sex might be cheap But
love and commitment is not. A virtuous woman is
priceless and worth more than gold, she’s a blessing
to her man and brings softness and beauty to his life,
Show me a successful man and i will tell you there is
a praying and cooperative wife complementing him.
GENTLEMEN, If God has blessed you with a woman
who stays by you through thick and thin, Love you
regardless of what and invest her life in yours. Please
do not let her down by engaging in the cheap sex
saga. discipline and self control is what makes you a
man, say no to marriage and relationship breakers
Who sometimes you don’t even need to stress before
they sleep with you, They are destiny destroyers. Sex
is spiritual, Think twice before you scatter what you
have built for years on the stable of cheap sex………

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Ladies, don’t leave the guy who opened his
heart to you for a guy who spend money
for you. A real woman would never do that. A
real woman would never give in to that kind
temptation. A real woman would never get involved
with another guy while already being
involved with a guy already. Trust me, it isn’t
worth losing the guy who chose you to share
he’s life with over some guy who chose to
sleep with you for the night just for pleasure.
It isn’t worth losing the guy who knows you better
than anyone else does over some guy
who barely knows you well enough to let you
hit it. It isn’t worth losing the guy who has
been with you through thick and thin over
some guy who only wants you when you’re
well-off. Don’t let those players……. make you lose
sight of what’s
important, or else you’ll regret losing the
best thing that’s ever happened to you. Think
about it and act accordingly sis

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Closed Eyes Can See

That’s not a mistake.

It’s a very sound advice.

Most of our doubts are introduced through the
things we see on the outside.

Most of our fears stem from external circumstances
and situations.

How many times have you robbed yourself of the
privilege of a breakthrough simply because you

You allowed the whispers of uncertainty become
a whirlwind that swept you off track and wind you
up in a little corner.

That doesn’t have to be your reality this week.
Deal with doubt. Take that step. Make that move.

There is a popular saying in Latin.
“Fortes fortuna adiuvat”

which means..

Fortunes favours the Bold.

Which furthers translates to good things
come to those who are bold enough to take
the risk.

For a simple solution that will crush your doubts
and lift you to new heights of conviction.

Remember you never win if you don’t try!

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Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start. It’s also a school where
you will never graduate.
It’s a school without a break or a free period.
It’s a school where no one is allowed to drop out.
It’s a school you will have to attend every day of your life.
It’s a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
It’s a school founded by God:
1.On the foundation of love.
2.The walls are made out of trust.
3.The door made out of acceptance.
4.The windows made out of understanding
5.The furniture made out of blessings
6.The roof made out of faith.
Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal.
God is the only Principal.
Even in times of storms, don’t be unwise and run outside.
Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to be.
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day.
Never forget the C-word…Communicate.
Communicate to your classmate and to the Principal
If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate.
Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So take it as a challenge and work on it together.
Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school).
Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to.
When tempted to quit find courage and continue.
Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet it’s a school better than any other.
It’s one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day.
Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject.
After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it.
To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all.
Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse. More grace from God.
Share with all your married friends to encourage them, and to your unmarried friends to counsel and educate them.
Please add your comments, thoughts and contributions, God bless you.

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Man UP

Why u need 2 Man up and chase ur Dreams
1. Talent is given, Greatness is earned
2. Don’t let someone else’s opinion of u become ur reality
3. Listen, Smile, agree and then do whatever u were going 2 do anyway
4. Don’t let a bad day make u feel u have a bad life
5. D person who say something is impossible should nt interupt d person doing it
6. It never 2u late 2 be what u might have been
7. If opportunity does nt knock, build a door
8. D higher u climb d better the view
9. With patience u can even cook a stone
10. Dnt tell me d sky’s limit wen dere is footprint on the moon
11. In life u get wat u put in, everything comes back around
12. If u settle 4 just anything, u will never know wat u re truly worth of
13. Death is not d greatest loss in life, d greatest loss is what dies inside while u are still alive
14. Dream as u will live forever, live as u will die today
15. As long as u are going 2 be thinking, THINK BIG
16. Life is a stage u get only one performance, make it a good one
17. Nothing is impossible, d word itself says I’m possible
18. Dont be afraid 2 give up d good 2 go 4 d great
19. Live is short, live it. love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherished
20. Don’t live ur fears, live ur dreams
21. Everyday is a new beginning, take a deep breathe and start again
22. Begin each day with a grateful heart


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The “Stingy” Church

  • I have a lot in my mind to say but they are so much I don’t know where to start from, but firstly let me say this. I believe so much that the church is the place where we worship our God almighty, and also I see the church as the abode of Gods presence especially when his children gather together in fellowship to the glory of God.
    I have been to several churches right from the day that I was born and there is this one thing I have always sought so well to find but always lacking, to the extent I am begining to wonder if without we can really say we have a church. That thing I am talking about is True Love.
    When the topic: Love is brought to the table of discussion amongst Christians, it is hastened up, people begin to drag their feet, even when some talk,they don’t say the facts to detail but rather they specialize in roaming in circles around the main issue. This is very appalling and so embarassing.
    The main essence of church ” Love and Fellowship” is no longer an important matter anymore.
    When we love, we care , we are concerned about others, we share, we don’t look down on others, we are sincere, its a sign of holiness, we don’t judge, we don’t suspect, we tolerate others, we don’t curse or haul out insults, we encourage, we don’t take advantage of other people, and so on.
    I feel a true church should care less about building structures, and care more about building lives. A true church ought to realize that without the people there is no church and so the people are the church. A true church should care a lot about the welfare of her members by ensuring that none is found wanting in terms of their daily living, lifestyle, economic, spiritual, social and material needs. A true church would see the great commission as a primary and essential factor to her objectives. What am I saying?, In short a true church should be the bedrock or foundation of every individual resonating into a better and a more organized society.
    Is this what we find today in our present day churches? I ask this pertinent question because I feel so much pain within when I see the rot and decadence that decorates our society and immediate environment. I shout! And am forced to assume or would I say conclude that the major cause of our problems today is the Church.
    Though I stand on this premise that there is nothing impossible with God Almighty who knows the end from the beginning.
    Looking at these trend you would find an act that can be well described by the word “Stingy”. What does it mean to be stingy? I would say its the act of not giving easily i.e. being covetous. Not been generous. Ok. Now can we say that the church of today dully obeys the scriptures to the letter when the Bible says it is better to give than to receive? When a member(s) in your church is(are) in need, is the church hasty to help that individual(s)?, as the case may be, or they drag their feet until the need is met somehow from a different source.
    -Pls tell us what’s the situation like in your church and those churches around you.
    -Do share with us your experience if you have and we would learn.
    -Is your church a stingy church? let’s know why you feel so.
    -How can we remedy this situation ravaging churches today and its growth.
    -What role would you play to stem the tide of stinginess in church members and the church as a whole?

Your comments goes a long way to help other people learn and for us all to work in ensuring the best change churches would need to attain greater heights to the glory of God.

Thank you.

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Your Wife 


1. Your wife is not perfect, forgive her.

2. Your wife is the bone of your bone, do not break her.

3. Your wife is a gift, appreciate her.

4. Your wife is a rare gem, guide her jealously.

5. Your wife is your best friend, be friendly with her.

6. Your wife is your joy, nourish her.

7. Your wife is to be cherish, be cheerful to her.

8. Your wife is your portion, cherish her.

9. Your wife is not a devil, don’t dump her.

10. Your wife is not only good for sex, carry her along in every issue.

Love Is The Greatest

11. Your wife is not your enemy, encourage her.

12. Your wife is not a family material, never commit her unto the hand of your family members.

13. Your wife is not your rival, don’t compete with her.

14. Your wife is a female gender, honor her.

15. Your wife is not common, don’t compare her.

16. Your wife is not a wash hand base, stop abusing her.

17. Your wife is a weaker vessel, handle her with care.

18. Your wife is a beautiful queen, celebrate her.

19. Your wife is not a fighter, don’t fight her.

20. Your wife is not a punching bag, don’t beat her.

21. Your wife is not a game, don’t play her.

22. Your wife need foreplay, don’t rape her.

23. Your wife is a hook, get hook to her.

24. Your wife is all you love, praise her.

25. Your wife is important, honor her.

26. Your wife is what u make her to be, accept her.

27. Your wife is your joy, pursue her.

28. Your wife needs your honor, never embarrass her in the public.

29. Your wife is not a knife, be nice to her.

30. Your wife is a distinct personality, never compare her to any work.

31. Your wife is loyal, don’t be suspicious of her.

32. Your wife is not a fool, listen to her advice.

33. Your wife is not malicious, do not keep malice with her.

34. Your wife is the best friend you can have, befriend her.

35. Your wife is not a napkin, do not misuse her. 

36. Your wife is not your house girl, support her in the kitchen.

37. Your wife is passionate, do not by- pass her. Make Her Smile. Be Romantic with Her.She will love you More and More

38. Your wife is very important to you, do not abandon her.

39. Your wife is a queen, do not quarrel with her.

40. Your wife is not the only owner of the sit, help her to baby sit.

41. Your wife is reasonable, do not under- rate her.

42. Your wife is your responsibility, provide for her.

43. Your wife is yourself, do not separate her bed.

44. Your wife is number one in your life, priorities her

45. Your wife is your treasure, jealously guide her.

46. Your wife need your help, help her.

47. Your wife need your full attention, do not give it to T.V set.

48. Your wife is valuable, add more value to her.

49. Your wife is your crown, do not abandon her. 

50. You will account to God about your wife, handle her with care. She may be or  seem fragile but She’s strong…..

Kill Skin Tags 


Do you know that u don’t have to go for surgery to get rid of these tags. 

Here are home remedies to it.
Skin tags are caused due to the accumulation of blood vessels and collagen in the thicker parts of the skin. Scientifically, skin tags are called as achrochordon.
These fleshy outgrowths are very small in size and appear deformed in shape. They usually occur on eyelids, neck, arms, lower part of the breast, and armpits. Skin tags can occur both in men and women. Instead of rushing to the doctor, skin tags can be easily removed at home by trying out some simple home remedies.
Apple Cider Vinegar
This is one of the best home remedies for skin tags on the neck. Soak a cotton ball in apple cider vinegar and apply it over the skin tag. Use this remedy for about a month for complete removal of skin tag.
 Castor Oil
Mix a little castor oil with baking powder to form a paste. It can be very sticky. Keep repeating the process for two to four weeks, and you will notice the skin tag disappearing slowly.
Pineapple Juice
This is one of the simplest ways to remove skin tags on skin. Apply pineapple juice every day at least 2-3 times, but don’t rinse it off. Repeat it for at least 10 days, until the skin tag is completely scraped off. Pineapple juice is also known to work on moles and warts.
 Duct Tape
Stick a piece of duct tape to the skin tag for a continuous period of 10-12 days until the skin tag is completely removed. This is an effective home remedy to get rid of skin tags.
 Onion Juice
Cut an onion, and leave it overnight in a vessel containing some salt. Extract the juice from it, the next morning. Apply this juice every night on the skin tag for at least 10-12 days. It will completely remove the tag.
Banana Peel
A banana peel also seems effective to remove skin tag. Cut a small piece of banana peel and place the inside part of it over the skin tag. Cover it firmly with gauze, and leave it overnight. Repeat this remedy daily until the skin tags fall off.
 Tea Tree Oil
Tea tree oil is one of the best natural methods for skin tag removal at home. Soak a cotton ball in water and then, put at least 2-3 drops of tea tree oil on it. Now, lightly rub it over the skin tag in circular motions. Repeat this daily at least twice a day for about a week until the skin tag completely vanishes.
Nail Polish
Nail polish is also a good way for removing skin tags at home. Apply nail polish over the area. Let it set and dry, then remove it. Repeat the process 3 times a day for a few days until you see visible results.
Do have a swell week all and stay blessed!

Bad Leadership Big Brains

​Ni🇳🇬eria has the brains, but *_spectacularly lacks the leadership_* to be a great nation. Here’s proof:
🇳🇬 BRITISH Nobel laureate Dorothy Hodgkin once noted that the University of Lagos was one of the world’s centres of expertise in her specialist field of chemical crystallography.
🇳🇬 Ahmadu Bello University Zaria had the first world class computer centre in Africa.
🇳🇬 The University of Ife had a notable pool of expertise in nuclear physics.
🇳🇬 Our premier University of Ibadan had an international reputation as a leading centre of excellence in tropical medicine, development economics and the historical sciences.
🇳🇬 The Saudi Royal family used to frequent UCH for medical treatment in the 1960s.
🇳🇬 The engineering scientist Ayodele Awojobi, a graduate of ABU Zaria, was a rather troubled genius. He tragically died of frustration because our environment could not contain let alone utilise, his talents.
🇳🇬 Ishaya Shuaibu Audu, pioneer Nigerian Vice-Chancellor of ABU Zaria, collected all the prizes at St. Mary’s University Medical School London.
🇳🇬 His successor in Zaria, Iya Abubakar, was a highly talented Cambridge mathematician who became a professor at 28 and was a noted consultant to NASA.
🇳🇬 Alexander Animalu was a gifted MIT physicist who did work of original importance in superconductivity. His book, “Intermediate Quantum Theory of Crystalline Solids”, has been translated into several languages, including Russian.
🇳🇬 Renowned mathematician Chike Obi solved Fermat’s 200-year old conjecture with pencil and paper while the Cambridge mathematician John Wiles achieved same with the help of a computer working over a decade.
😡 After the harsh environment of the 1980s IMF/WB structural adjustment programmes, the Babangida military dictatorship undertook massive budgetary cutbacks in higher education. Our brightest and best fled abroad.
🇳🇬 Today, Nigerian doctors, scientists and engineers are making massive contributions in Europe and North America.
🇳🇬 Philip Emeagwali won the 1989 Gordon Bell Award for his work in super-computing.
🇳🇬 Jelani Aliyu designed the first electric car for American automobile giant General Motors.
🇳🇬 Olufunmilayo Olopede, Professor of Medicine at the University of Chicago, won a McArthur Genius Award for her work on cancer.
🇳🇬 Winston Soboyejo, who earned a Cambridge doctorate at 23, is a Princeton engineering professor lauded for his contributions to materials research. He is Chairman of the Scientific Advisory Board to the Secretary-General of the United Nations.
🇳🇬 Washington University biomedical engineering professor Samuel Achilefu received the St. Louis Award for his invention of cancer-seeing glasses that is a major advance in radiology.
🇳🇬 Kunle Olukotun of Stanford did work of original importance on multi-processors.
🇳🇬 National Merit laureate Omowunmi Sadik of State University of Binghamton owns patents for biosensors technology.
🇳🇬 Young Nigerians are also recording stellar performances at home and abroad.
🇳🇬 A Nigerian family, the Imafidons, were voted “the smartest family in Britain” in 2015.  
🇳🇬 Anne-Marie Imafidon earned her Oxford Masters’ in Mathematics and Computer Science when she was only 19. Today, she sits on several corporate boards and was awarded an MBE in 2017 for services to science.
🇳🇬 Recently, Benue State University mathematician Atovigba Michael Vershima is believed to have solved the two centuries old Riemann Conjecture that has defied giants such as Gauss, Minkowski and Polya.
🇳🇬 Another young man, Hallowed Olaoluwa, was one of a dozen “future Einstein” awarded postdoctoral fellowships by Harvard University. He completed a remarkable doctorate in mathematical physics at the University of Lagos aged 21. While at Harvard he aims to focus on solving problems relating to “quantum ergodicity and quantum chaos”, with applications to medical imaging and robotics. 
🇳🇬 Another Unilag alumnus, Ayodele Dada, graduated with a perfect 5.0 GPA, an unprecedented feat in a Nigerian university.
🇳🇬 Victor Olalusi recently graduated with such stellar performance at the Russian Medical Research University, Moscow, and was feted the best graduate throughout the Russian Federation.
🇳🇬 Habiba Daggash, daughter of Senator Sanusi Daggash, recently graduated with a starred first in Engineering at Oxford University.
🇳🇬 Emmanuel Ohuabunwa earned a GPA of 3.98 out of a possible 4.0 as the best overall graduate of the Ivy-League Johns Hopkins University. Stewart Hendry, Johns Hopkins Professor of Neuroscience, described the young man as having “an intellect so rare that it touches on the unique…a personality that is once-in-a-life-time”.
🇳🇬 There is also young Yemi Adesokan, postdoctoral fellow of Harvard Medical School who patented procedures for tracking the spread of viral epidemics in developing countries.
🇳🇬 Ufot Ekong recently solved a 50-year mathematical riddle at Tokai University in Japan and was voted the most outstanding graduate of the institution. He currently works as an engineer for Nissan, having pocketed two patents in his discipline.
*This is only the tip of the iceberg. If our system were not so inclement to talent we would be celebrating a bountiful harvest of geniuses in all the fields of human endeavour. This is why the correlates between our gene-pool and national development are so diametrically opposed.*
😫 We are becoming a failed state. We punch miserably below our weight in the hierarchy of world economics and politics.
😩 None of our institutions come near the top 500 in the World Universities League Table. An estimated 50% of our people live in extreme poverty.
😰 Youth unemployment hovers around 45 percent (70% for the far-North). The poverty is heartbreaking.
👎😡 Our per capita GDP is less than $3,000 as compared to Singapore’s $55,252.  
😱 We have the worst road carnage record in the world, with more than 20,000 lost to road accidents annually.
😳 We wasted over $18 billion on the power sector and our people still live in darkness. The state governments are virtually bankrupt.
_It is only by investing in science and in our young people can we forge a better future. Without science and innovation the African people will never overcome their millennial servitude. And the African Renaissance of our dream will become a mere phantasmagoria._
We must create an ecosystem that enables science and innovation to flourish. And we must incentivise talent while building a merit-based society.
👌 In Brazil, a Nobel laureate is entitled by statute to the same pension rights as a former President. Society must adequately recognise and reward all men and women of excellence.
Our government (or what passes for such a designation) should keep a roster of all super-achievers of Nigerian origin and we should tap their brains for building our country.


What a nice story to share….

An American man walked into a restaurant in

London. As soon as he entered, he noticed an

African man sitting in the corner.

So he walked over to the counter, removed his

wallet and shouted, “Waiter! I am buying food for

everyone in this restaurant, except that black

African guy over there!”

So the waiter collected the money from the man

and began serving free food to everyone in the

restaurant, except the African.

However,insteadof becoming upset, the African

simply looked up at the American and

shouted, “Thank you!” That infuriated the man.

So once again, the American took out his wallet

and shouted, “Waiter! This time I am buying

bottles of wine and additional food for everyone

in this bar, except for that African sitting in the

corner over there!” So the waiter collected the

money from the man and began serving free

food and wine to

everyone in the bar except the African.

When the waiter finished serving the food and

drinks, once again, instead of becoming angry,

the African simply smiled at the American man

and shouted, “Thank you!”

That made the American man furious. So he

leaned over on the counter and said to the

waiter, “What is wrong with that African man? I

have bought food and drinks for everyone in this

bar except him, but instead of becoming angry,

he just sits there and smiles at me and shouts

‘Thank you.’ Is he


The waiter smiled at the American and said, “No,

he is not mad. He is the owner of this


May your enemies work unknowingly in your


💬 Stay away from Anger..It hurts ..Only You!

💬 If you are right then there is no need to get


💬 And if you are wrong then you don’t have

any right to get angry.

💬 Patience with family is love,

💬 Patience with others is respect.

💬 Patience with self is confidence and

Patience with GOD is faith.

💬 Never Think Hard about thePAST, It brings


💬 Don’t think more about the FUTURE, It

brings Fear…

💬 Live this Moment with a Smile,It brings


💬Every test in our life makes us bitter or


💬 Every problem comes to make us or break


💬 The choice is ours whether we become

victims or victorious.

💬 Beautiful things are not always good but

good things are always beautiful

💬 Do you know why God created gaps

between fingers?

💬 So that someone who is special to you

comes and fills those gaps by holding your hand


💬 Happiness keeps You Sweet..But being

sweet brings happiness.

Do Share it with all the Good People In ur Life.

Selfishness: Good or Bad

The surprising reasons why being ‘selfish’ benefits everyone

Ladies, say it with me: I am the most important thing in my life. No one and no thing is more important than me. Not my children, my spouse or partner, my religion or my mission in life.

What? That feels weird? Arrogant? Selfish? It’s not, and I’m going to tell you why. Then, by the end of this blog, we’re going to shout it from the rooftops together.

If you’re like most women, you’ve probably spent the last few decades trying to be all things to all people: the best daughter, the best mother, the best wife or girlfriend, the best businesswoman, the best neighbor, the best congregant or parishioner. What an exhausting list of hats to wear on a daily or weekly basis! But nowhere in there was “the best me”—where does that fall?

It’s impossible to play all of those roles successfully if you aren’t the best you. And the best you requires you to put yourself first, above all else, so that you have more of you to give.

When you make someone or something more important than you—your religion, your children, your spouse, or even your life’s purpose—you allow that person or that thing to have control over “you.” You give that person or thing power over you. You lose a piece of you to whatever you concede the power to. Granted, all these things may be extremely important to you but they are not more important than you.

When I made this declaration to a group of women, one woman remarked, “I would sacrifice my own life for my children’s!” I am sure she would, as I bet most mothers would. However, that does not mean that you—your spiritual self—are less important than your children. I used to say, “My mission of financial education is first and foremost!” Yes, the mission is tremendously important to me but it is not more important than me.

Interestingly, men don’t seem to struggle with this concept as much as women do. The word I hear used most often by women regarding this statement is “selfish.” Why the disparity? According to an article in Psychology Today, “a man will more easily shrug off an accusation of selfishness because society’s definition of manliness involves a striving toward self-enhancement, ambition, competition, and aggression. For women, an accusation of selfishness hits harder, since an ethos of caring is seen as a bedrock of the concept of femininity. The desire not to be seen as—and not to feel—selfish seems to motivate and shape the lives of women more than the lives of men.”

Why Is This an Issue for So Many Women?

In my opinion, we are so used to putting everyone first—our children, our husbands or partners, our parents, our job or business—that many of us have become accustomed to taking a back seat. All too often on social media, I see some women actually bragging about how exhausted they are, like it’s a badge of honor. They’re exhausted because catering to those you love, without catering to yourself, drains you of energy instead of giving you energy. And that is not empowering, inspiring or healthy.

It’s easy to lose track of who you really are when day in and day out you’re living your life according to everyone’s else’s dreams, visions, wants and needs. That’s because in order to best serve others, you have to first serve yourself.

Think of a time when you were really joyful—a time when you felt free and full of life.

What were you doing?
How were you feeling?
Were you more productive?
Were you more fun to be around?
Willing to help others?
Did things seem to happen effortlessly?

This is you being all of you and making you most important.

And women ARE successful making themselves a priority. Check out these 10 women, who prove why putting yourself first is good for business.

So What Does All This Mean To You?

Of course I’m going to link this to your own financial education and, more importantly, your financial transformation. Are you taking the time you need every day—for you, the most important person—to move toward your financial freedom? Are you putting yourself first … at least some of the time? It’s common knowledge that the healthier you are in mind, body and spirit, the more effective and productive you are in all the roles that you choose to play. I’m sure you’ve heard the announcement on board an airplane, “Please be sure to put on your oxygen mask first before assisting others.” Those are words to live by: You take care of you, so that you can better take care of others.

In my book It’s Rising Time!, I encourage women to raise the bar on ourselves. It’s time we become the role models who will inspire other women. It’s time to embrace the fact that there is no one or no thing more important than you. It’s time to put yourself first … and make it a better world. An easy way to start is by joining our community.

So now, let’s say it again, proudly, with our heads held high: I am the most important thing in my life. No one and no thing is more important than me. Not my children, my spouse or partner, my religion or my mission in life.

Smart Wife

Today morning, she and her husband had a really bad argument. He came home after work still mad at her, why is she is so difficult to be with sometimes?
He walked in the house, ready for another fight….
He walked in and found her cooking his favourte meal: chapati with beef stew. Worship music was playing in the house…
“Hi honey”  she greeted him…
“Hi” he said back…
He leaned on the kitchen wall expecting the argument to continue, she is a woman who speaks her mind…
But instead, she sang along to the worship song playing as she cooked…
“You had a good day?” She asked as she added oil in the pan… 
“Why do you do this?” He asked…
“Do what?” She asked smiling…
He stared at her saying, “You make it so hard to stay mad at you”…
“It’s not me, it’s God” she answered…
“That explains the worship music. You surround the house with worship” he said…
She fed him a portion of the cooked chapati. He chewed…
“I learned the power of worship. Worship humbles both of us, it calms our spirit. I cannot stay mad at my husband when the presence of God fills our home. I cannot continue fights when God’s peace lives in our home”…
She went back to the pan to cook some more “When you come home. You shouldn’t come home to a wife whose face and tone is ready for war. You should come home to my face glowing because of God’s glory. Worship keeps me in check”…
He moved to her, held her by the waist and kissed her neck then said, “Worship reminds me that I am loving God’s daughter. Worship cuts off my ego because there can be no worship without humility and submission”…
She turned off the cooking heat and turned to face him, she giggled, “Look at us, just this morning we were shouting and mad, now you’re holding me so close” she told him and kissed his lips…
“That’s what happens when my wife is my fellow worshiper” he kissed her lips…
“A man who has submitted himself to God is so easy to love” she told him…
“You asked how my day was. I didn’t have such a good day after that fight with you earlier today. But the day will end well with you”…
He knelt down beside her…
“What are you doing Honey? Asking me to be your wife, again?” She wondered…
He smiled and answered, “Every day I choose you to be my wife. I am kneeling down because I want to worship God, please join me”…
She knelt down next to him, his hand holding her, she said “Every day, I say yes to being your wife. Let’s worship”…
“Sorry for shouting at you” she told him…
“Sorry for being difficult sometimes” he told her…
Him and the wife worshiped.
No marriage that is led by and anchored in God will fall, is your home/relationship full of the presence of God?
Think about it..

Marriage Work


I used to interpret the saying “Marriage is not for small boys” to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage? 

Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that. 
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always. 
Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours. 
I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage. 

When it becomes your attitude to always please your husband or wife, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn’t rattle. 
She continued, my son, never carry how rich or poor your family is into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman. 
Love only compels would- be couples into marriage but it doesn’t sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages.


Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You can’t get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage. 
To cut the long story short, as too much cook spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes couple should resist at all cost in marriage:
1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only use you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God. 
2) Let the man be head financially, emotionally, 

physically and spiritually, whilst the woman exercise diligence in the use of the tongue. 
3) Children are not the ultimate in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life. 
There has never been any automatic barrenness in a person. Abraham got Ishmael at age 86 but at age 100 and 90, they eventually got their Isaac. Isaac had a barren family for 20 years but eventually got his twins; Jacob and Esau etc. 
4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day’s stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not “Angels” in that marriage
5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes. 
6) Let the women ” Make up” their characters much more than they make up their body. 
Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc. 

Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us.
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Unhinged Nigeria 

By Fr. Hassan Kukah
As usual, Nigerians are doing what they do best: making themselves the laughing stock of the rest of the world, behaving like spoilt brats of a rich but irresponsible father, or like players in a game with no rules and no referee, a game in a field of moral free fall. Perhaps by way of a metaphor, that is really a summary of our condition. Those who have held the nation to ransom, non-state actors constituting themselves into a calumnious conspiratorial tag team of sorcerers’ apprentices believe that what they cannot have, no one can have. They are prepared to drag the nation down with them even if they do not know where they are going. We are forced to ask ourselves the timeless question, how did we get here and indeed, where are we?
The froth has come to the top: Nigeria’s broth of deceit and opportunism masquerading as politics has triggered a diarrhea with dire consequences for the public space. Except we concede that we are a cursed nation, it is difficult to fathom how we could have ended up where we are now, a nation in a permanent stupor and always unable to celebrate its victories not to talk of avoiding its sorrows. How did we leave so many doors open that a small coterie of nondescript individuals with neither known addresses nor antecedents suddenly took centre stage?
A first time visitor to our country in the last few weeks would think they have crashed into a party organised by drunken criminals who, in their bouts of raucous inebriation have resorted to a serious brawl with self injuries while overturning tables and food, destroying both glasses and plates. Given the huge opportunities and resources, is this where we should be? My people, what has God not done for us?
Suddenly, the nation seems to have come unhinged. Across the country, sounds of very irresponsible and provocative utterances fill the air. The media lapped it all up and by giving these adult urchins publicity, created the impression that the end of our nation had arrived. And yet, the late Chinua Achebe warned his Igbo people in general and Nigeria in particular of the consequences of the men with ideas leaving the stage to the money-miss-road ragamuffins, men and women with no records of service or achievement, men and women who elsewhere should be in jail taking up the stage and doing what they know best, creating a maelstrom, ratcheting up the volume of vitriol and creating a discordant orchestra of artistic chaos. My people, what has God not done for us?
But while all this was going on, look at the other side, the abode of reason, rationality and integrity. Look at what has happened to us in England. In one fell swoop, seven of our sons and daughters were elected into the British Parliament, an unprecedented feat in the history of Democracy anywhere in the world. The following week, England won the Under 21 World Cup with the assistance of three young men of Nigerian descent. In the same England, just a few months back, our son created history by winning the World Heavy Weight Boxing title. Talk about the colony striking back! My people, what has God not done for us?
Within the same kingdom, across the sea to Ireland, one of our favourite sons was also making history. After about a hundred years, the Vatican announced the appointment of the first African as the Apostolic Nuncio, Archbishop Jude Okolo to Ireland, the land of our missionary ancestors. After a hundred years, Rome announced the appointment of a Nigerian-born Most Rev. Dr. Eusebius Chinekezi Manugwu, as pioneer Bishop of Port-Gentil, in Gabon. After almost a hundred years one of our daughters is now Editor of the Harvard Law Review. Almost on a monthly basis, Nigeria has continued to receive news of the spectacular achievements of our children who are breaking academic records in America and Europe, feats that few people from any developing country have achieved. They are daily breaking the glass ceilings and scaling walls that racism and colonialism had erected for the black man. In almost every corner of the world, wherever black achievement is mentioned, if there are two names, both or one must be a Nigerian. My people, what has God not done for us?
We parade the best writers with the greatest world recognition for any one country in the developing world. Our sons and daughters have won some of the most prestigious international awards there are in various fields of Art, Science, Sports and almost everything. Our Medical personnel, Lawyers, Engineers, Professors, Scientists are in the most prestigious laboratories all over the world. It will be difficult to find any good University or institution of research and learning anywhere in the world that does not have Nigerians as their brightest and best teachers or students. So, what is going on? Are we under a tragic spell? My people, what has God not done for us?
When I look at our country, I feel a sense of both shame and pity not for myself but for our teeming millions who simply want to be left to do what ordinary human beings have come to take for granted elsewhere: get married, raise a family, live in peace and prepare the next generation. Is this too much the ordinary citizens of Nigeria to ask? We have become the butt of jokes around the continent and the world. Those who brought education to us are in awe of our intellectual capacity and they hide their jealousy by accusing us of being loud and arrogant. Our cousins on the continent, most of whom we have sent technical assistance to and tried to share our wealth with, look on us as a threat. Whenever the opportunity presents itself, as in the world of international diplomacy on the global stage, they never fail to collude with others to subvert our global ambitions and leadership claims. Where did we go wrong? My people, what has God not done for us?
Today, we stand on the crossroads of shame and seeming despair. An energetic and brilliant generation of young Nigeria, roaring to take their place in the public stage are held back by a political class which prefers to feed its gargantuan appetite. Governance has become a massive fraud and a heinous crime scene. The easy question is to ask, how do we get out of this self-inflicted mess where we continue to feed our children yesterday’s barf?
This is the world to which the young priests being ordained today are going into. This is the world that the next generation of our young people growing up are coming into. How should today’s priest be prepared to respond to the social questions of the time?
While all this is going on at a national political scene, we in the Catholic Church also have our own sad drama that has been playing out in Ahiara for the last five years. In Ahiara, the devil has had his day. Now it is the turn of God to have His way. This is not the time for judgment of condemnation. It is a time for those who have ears to adjust them so that they can listen to the voice of from the gentle breeze as Elijah did (1 Kgs 19:12). I am glad that a prayer for Ahiara is circulating among Catholics. Please recite the prayer. The devil cannot be more powerful than the prayers of faithful Catholics around the country and the world. We commit Ahiara Diocese and its entire people to our Blessed Mother. May she, the patron of Priests intercede for our brothers and sisters.
It is clear that we as a Church are not free from the cobwebs of confusion that adorn our society. Whether we call the events under question ethnicity or faithlessness or greed, the fact is that our society is in deep trouble. And here is the challenge of the Catholic priesthood. This is where I want to challenge all of us who are Priests especially to sit up and confront the rut in our society by really and truly being signs of contradiction, signs of hope amidst this despair. We can only do this if we free ourselves from the temptations of material power. I want to focus my thoughts on the Priests because even if our people are broken and injured as individuals or families, we are called to be their healers. But to play our roles, we must disengage from the blind material pursuit that has rendered our mission ineffective. For, as Chaucer said: If gold rusts, what will iron do?
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It is worthy of note that today’s ordination is taking place on the 40th anniversary of the foundation of this Seminary, the National Missionary Seminary of St. Paul and her supporting agency, the Missionary Society of St. Paul (MSP), by the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of Nigeria under the leadership of Dominic Cardinal Ekandem of blessed memory. By Divine Providence, this month marks also the centenary of his birth.  Thus, about a week from today, June 23rd, the Archdiocese of Abuja which was also his brainchild, invites all of us to the party marking the one hundred years of his birth!
In a society that is being pulled apart by atavistic cleavages and divisions, we priests must become instruments of peace and unity, just like Cardinal Dominic Ekandem strove to be in his own days. Yes! He was an instrument of peace and harmony. He was a bridge-builder where polarizing forces and selfish interests were hard at work. Being the visionary leader that he was, he founded this Seminary as an instrument of unity and service to humanity. So, you new priests of today, like this great Father of our Faith and your Founder, Dominic Cardinal Ekandem, must do all within your power to rise above the atavistic forces that are attempting to pull this country apart. Like the great patriot that he was, the Cardinal worked for the unity and progress of this blessed land. You too must, and in fact all who call this land our home, must speak and work for peace and justice in our Church and Society. We must become champions of united positive actions.  This constitutes a great part of our vocation as Christians but even more for us who have been called to the priestly ministry.
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Today, as we ordain these five young men priests, we must reflect on the meaning and ministry of priests.  Here we return to the words of the French Priest Fr Henri Lacordaire whose timeless words transcend any other definition of the Catholic priesthood. He said to be a priest is to:
To live in the midst of the world without wishing its pleasures;
To be a member of each family, yet belonging to none;
To share all suffering; to penetrate all secrets; To heal all wounds;
to go from men to God and offer Him their prayers; To return from God to men to bring pardon and hope;
These are difficult times, they are times that try our patience. But they are times of hope and courage. The priesthood will continue to be challenged because there are many versions of the priest as there are parishioners. Thankfully, we are called to serve and not to seek popular approval or applause. Again, the timeless words of one of our priests remain when said:
The priest exists for the community and only for the community. But not everyone in the community thinks the same.
Some bless him, others pity him, and so many others ignore him.
If the priest is young, they say he is inexperienced.
If he is old, they say he is outmoded, ill fashioned and conservative.
He should retire!
If he dresses well, he is a middle-class snob. If he dresses poorly, he is an agitator.
If he is happy and enjoys life and believes in love, he is wordily and not a churchman.
If he lives an ascetic life, the say: he is a “monk” and not a committed priest of the 21st century.
If he is jovial and makes people laugh, he is a joker and a clown. If he doesn’t laugh with people, he is distant, proud and full of himself.
If he visits his parishioners, he is never at home…he is a walkabout. If he does not, he is proud and lacks pastoral prudence.
The poor are angry if he associates with the rich and they call him a capitalist. The rich are insulted if he devotes himself to the poor and they call him an economist.
If he is generous and helps the poor, he is a populist. If he is moderate and judicious in spending, he is called a stingy man.
If he decorates the church, he is spending too much. If he does not, he is allowing things to deteriorate.
If he asks for funds, he likes money a lot. If the parish fund is low, he is a “bad business man.”
if he talks of moral decadence, he is putting up a holier than-thou attitude. If he doesn’t, he is morally lax and condones evil.
If he is out-spoken and criticizes the social order, he is a radical prophet, if he is gentle and prudent in criticism, he is a cunning diplomat.
If he is agile; he is hyperactive. If he is sick and weak; he does not care about his health.
If he dies, Oh! There will never be a Priest like him again!
We are not called to solve all the problems of our time. However, today’s priest must wake up to the reality of the return to the twin forces of neo-paganism, sorcery, witchcraft, shamanism among our faithful for whom Christianity is merely superficial. This skin-deep faith cannot survive the challenges of hostile forces of secularism that threaten to engulf our public life. The solution is not the superfluous expressions of dubious religiousity which have turned the churchman into a rival shaman extracting favours from a reluctant god who responds to incantations and is seduced by false sacrifices. Do you recall Paul’s shock at Ephesus when he asked the brethren there is they had received the Holy Spirit? Their answer was: We have never heard of anything like the Holy Spirit (Acts 19:2). It would seem clear that we Christians must address the issues of whether we have indeed heard and accepted such a thing as the Holy Spirit. Because if we have, then its fruits of love, charity, prudence should be the glue to hold our society together.
Finally, our people must embrace community life and be ready to hold on to the shared values that held us together. It was not wealth that held us together. It was largely the sense of solidarity that we had, a gift that was always considered part and parcel of our DNA as Africans. I leave you with the words of one of the greatest writers, our own Chinua Achebe who said: A man who calls his kinsmen to a feast does not do so to redeem them from starving. They all have food in their own houses. When we gather together in the village ground at moonlight, it is not because of the moon. Every man can see it in his compound. We come together because it is better for kinsmen to do so. Therefore let us continue with the team spirit and enjoy the power of togetherness. Let us smile not because we do not have problems but let us smile because we are stronger than our problems.
Fr Kukah delivered this speech at the at the ordination of deacons at the National Missionary Seminary, Gwagawalada – Abuja
20th June 2017

Eagle Leadership 

1. *Eagles fly Alone and at High Altitudes.*

They don’t fly with sparrows, ravens, and other small birds.
*MEANING*; Stay away from narrow-minded people, those that bring you down. Eagle flies with Eagles. Keep good company.
2. *Eagles have an Accurate Vision.* They have the ability to focus on something as far as 5km away. No matter the obstacles, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.
*MEANING*; Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacles and you will succeed.
3. *Eagles do not Eat Dead things. They Feed only on Fresh Prey.*
*MEANING*; Do not rely on your past success, keep looking for new frontiers to conquer. Leave your past where it belongs, in the past.
4. *Eagles Love the Storm.* 

When clouds gather, the eagle gets excited, the eagle uses the storms wind to lift itself higher. Once it finds the wind of the storm, the eagle uses the raging storm to lift itself above the clouds. This gives the eagle an opportunity to glide and rest its wings. In the meantime, all the other birds hide in the branches and leaves of the tree.
*MEANING*; Face your challenges head on knowing that these will make you emerge stronger and better than you were. We can use the storms of life to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid to rise to greater heights. Achievers are not afraid of challenges, rather they relish them and use them profitably.
5. *Eagles Prepare for Training;* 

They remove the feathers and soft grass in the nest so that the young ones get uncomfortable in preparation for flying and eventually flies/  when it becomes unbearable to stay in the nest./ 
*MEANING*; Leave your Comfort Zone, there is No Growth there.
6. *When the Eagle Grows Old,* 

His feathers becomes weak and cannot take him as fast and as high as it should. This makes him weak and could make him die. So he retires to a place far away in the mountains. While there, he plucks out the weak feathers on his body and breaks its beaks and claws against the rocks until he is completely bare; a very bloody and painful process. Then he stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, new beaks and claws and then he comes out flying higher than before.
*MEANING*; We occasionally need to shed off old habit no matter how difficult, things that burden us or add no value to our lives should be let go of.


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