*BY AYODELE ADEOYE*
God created a normal man with high libido and while he’s healthy he will always look for sex. Even after he’s born again his penis is not born again. Being born again does not make a man hate sex, he only control his desire for fear of God.
The majority of adult men under 60 think about sex at least once a day. Only about one-quarter of women think about it that frequently. As men and women age, each fantasise less, but men still fantasise about twice as often”. “Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it and after many years of it.”
Sex means love to a man!
Sex means life to a man!
Sex is food to a man!
Sex means health to a man! Etc.
*UNDERSTANDING THE MAN’S SYSTEM*
First of all, ladies need to understand the system of men. They didn’t ask for this. They didn’t create themselves.
Do you know that 95% of healthy men wake up with an erection? Did they bargain for it? No!
Do you know that the penis has a mind of its own?.. You can be reading your bible and your penis will stand.
A man can be sleeping, once a woman start rubbing the penis, it stands even when the man is asleep!
Have you asked yourself why men are never on any periods? cramps or bad moods? That’s how God created them.
A man is naturally always ready for sex. Rub a man on his head, he already thinks you want sex, wink at him, he’s already seeing you naked, wave at a man walking with his wife, he will lose focus.
Its not by in “Jesus name” or “HolyGhost fire”. That’s why some churches don’t allow ladies with short dresses to sit in front because they will confuse pastor. Its not by anointing or Sheri ma ma ma ooo. They didn’t manufacture the high libido by themselves. They are all created in God’s image.
*MEN ARE WEAKER WHEN IT COMES TO SEX*
So many great men have fallen because of sex. Do you think they wanted to?
Soldiers in front of war still develop urge for sex, a woman may not if in such situation.
To show you how bad it is, so many soldiers were killed during Biafran war because a woman lured them inside bush.
David in the bible sent a woman’s husband to the war front for him to die so he can have sex with the wife. A man after God’s heart o, hmmmm.
Do I need to tell you about Samson? How he became a weakling at the lap of a woman. Imagine the strongest man in the world but so weak down there.
Solomon and other bible characters were at the mercy of their libido. Their wisdom and anointing could not help. It can only take the grace of God and some level of maturity to curtail this. Note, to curtail not to remove.
The way our body react to this is not the same women’s body react to it.
How many great women have you heard messed up because of dick? Maybe few.
So next time a man ‘misbehaves’ because of sex, don’t see it as he’s a beast or an animal. They are just responding to nature. You must understand you’re stronger in this aspect.
Don’t be like “I have lost the respect I have for you” “I thought you are responsible” “so this is what you wanted”? Etc.
Easy madam, even that your father, a 17 year old girl can make him lose focus and collect his gratuity money meant for your inheritance.
*1. Sex begins In The Body.*
While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. Men have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through their bodies, pushing and driving them toward sexual expression. Erections spring at the slightest provocation in young men. And for an adult man, seeing his wife or partner coming out of the shower naked causes his body to react. It is hard to overestimate the way his body chemistry directs his mind’s psychology toward the sexual. Women aren’t wired that way.
*THIS STUPID THING CALLED ERECTION*
Erection is a state of arousal of sexual desires in a man in preparation for sexual exploit. Having an erection is natural but obeying the dictates of your erection is a choice. For every erection, there’s a responsibility. Wise men have control over their erection but foolish men obey their erections.
Any erection not properly controlled is capable of leading one to early grave. Unsolicited erection is no respecter of persons. Anointing, righteousness, strength, age etc has no power over erection, only self-control and self discipline can curb an erection.
Many became useless fathers because they didn’t control their erections.
Some are in prison because they followed the dictates of their stupid erection.
Others have lost great opportunities in life because their erection pushed them.
Some are bed-ridden at the altar of uncontrollable erection.
The stupidity of erection is that most times it isn’t selective. Unchecked erection had led great kings to be at the bed of their slaves and maids. Stupid erection has led some to sleeping with their blood sisters. Erection has not left the clergy out of the drama as many have been found messing up with those they ought to be Shepherd over. What a stupid erection!
A strong man is not measured by the level of his physical muscle or by the number of nations he has conquered but by his ability to control his erection. No man in history could be said to be more powerful than Samson yet his erection made him the weakest in history, his erection made him fall at the lap of a woman. David killed Goliath and conquered many great nations but he couldn’t conquer his erection, he became weak at the sight of Bathsheba, the wife of his servant. Reuben ruined his future and generation after him because of his uncontrollable erection.
Don’t let your erection destroy your destiny!
Your erection is a sign you are a real man but following it to everywhere it leads you is a sign of weakness.
Any man who cannot control his erection can’t control his life.
The only time your erection cannot mislead you is when you use it within the confines of your marriage.
Stop following your erection, follow your vision.
*3. Sex Is Like Food To Him*
Women don’t feel this way but to a man sex is like food to him. Like food gives him physical strength, sex gives him psychological strength. Men who have regular sex with the right woman thinks better than those who abstain from sex.
A wise woman will understand this secret that as a man gather momentum to bless after a good meal so also he does after a good round of sex. After Isaac ate the venison he blessed Jacob, after Elijah ate the widow’s last meal, he blessed her etc. Women should learn to take spiritual blessing from their husbands after good meal and after good sex, the morale at that times are higher. Secret for the wise woman. Ask him to bless you after sex instead of asking to give you money or material things.
*4. It Eases Stress*
Men who are hardworking need good sex to stay healthy and emotionally balance. Sex to a man is a supplement to removes fatigue after a stressful day. He’s more active the next day when he gets those stress off. He’s radiant and full of life if he gets sex rightfully and timely.
A man does not mind having sex everyday. This is why it seems as if an
average man has a seed of polygamy in him. An average woman can’t have sex everyday. A wise and virtuous woman don’t criticise her husband for this, rather she does her best to meet his sexual needs.
I hear women say “can’t he have self-control?” Is not as easy for him like is easy for you. If your husband have self-control please celebrate him, it is a rare gift among men.
Women can endure sexual starvation, most men cannot. If you don’t want him to cheat, don’t starve him. Don’t spiritualize it, many spiritual men had fallen, don’t let your man fall.
*2. He Is Moved By What He Sees*
There is a powerful connection between the man’s eyes and his sexual organ that controls his mind and action. If you don’t want a man to get sexual arousal don’t let him see female flesh (especially the sensitive parts). If a 90 years old woman display her nakedness before a 25 years old man, he is like to have an erection. The erection of a man does not differentiate a sister, a mother or blood relation.
The strongest men on earth aren’t heavyweight champions but men who can subdue their erections.
*5. It Is A Medium of Communication*
One of the way a man expresses love is by love making. While a woman expresses her show of love differently a man thinks of sex if he’s in love. It is lack of understanding that makes women say “love is not sex”. To an average man sex and love are twin. If for any specific reason he doesn’t sleep with you to prove he loves you, he only knows when he eventually conquer you he will get it to the fullest. Men are strategists when it comes to sex.
*6. SEX MAKES HIM HAPPY*
Like money makes a woman happy, sex makes a man happy too. Having sex or lack of it can determine the mood of a man. This is why most men unconsciously promise their women to make them assistant of God before, during or after sex😃. If sex is not making your husband happy, that’s a serious problem.
Imagine Judah using his staff, signet and bracelet as collateral to a woman younger enough to be his daughter just to have sex with her.
*FUNNY THINGS MEN DO WHEN THEY WANT SEX*
1. They can travel for over 400km just to have sex.
2. They can beg for sex like streets beggar.😜
3. Before sex they can be very humble and loyal like Saul’s armourbearer.
4. They can promise to kill their mother for you when they need sex. Statistics had shown that over 50% of promises made before sex were never fulfilled.
5. They can form pity mood or sickness mood if they need sex. After they had gotten what they wanted, they get well without taking any medication.
6. They can run errands like houseboy when they’re high.
7. They obey every instruction before sex. Don’t try some of those instructions after sex if you don’t want to receive hot slap😜